tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32292276.post7009896463472675736..comments2023-05-21T01:53:32.046-07:00Comments on Marginal Perspectives: Auslaenderms. marginaliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03854609171313401651noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32292276.post-36875767092943188282010-11-19T16:54:50.773-08:002010-11-19T16:54:50.773-08:00Margie, I have no idea. The cruelty amazes me. I d...Margie, I have no idea. The cruelty amazes me. I do not fit in well at all in that world. <br /><br />I am sad that you know what I am talking about, but glad to have someone who really gets it.ms. marginaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03854609171313401651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32292276.post-7598391160598693502010-11-18T06:00:46.866-08:002010-11-18T06:00:46.866-08:00This really struck home. My husband is also Germa...This really struck home. My husband is also German, got here in circuitous fashion, and has a difficult relationship with his father (back in the Heimat). They have been dismissing him all his life, and even at his current age, it hurts and frustrates him.<br /><br />Why are families like this?<br /><br />*sigh*Third Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310395341252295955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32292276.post-11094956176792547462010-11-17T05:21:09.866-08:002010-11-17T05:21:09.866-08:00I understand the dismissal. You as an adoptee are ...I understand the dismissal. You as an adoptee are to "shut up and be happy" and we as nmothers are supposed to shut up and go away.<br /><br />I'm sorry that you and your husband have these situations - amazing how different and yet how similar they are. Neither is about you or Mark, it's about fear and ego from the other side.Carlynne Hershberger, CPSAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365785230628216814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32292276.post-32571897847776315422010-11-16T19:48:22.799-08:002010-11-16T19:48:22.799-08:00We have foster relatives (since my mom was a foste...We have foster relatives (since my mom was a foster child and we've taken in some foster kids), biological relatives, and now adoptive relatives (since we have an open adoption with our last three girls). It can get a little confusing (like when our youngest girls tell people they have five grandmas and three grandpas), but it's all family nonetheless. And family, whether adoptive, foster, or biological, is supposed to be your pillar of support. I'm sorry yours has been so rough.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03094017054916752470noreply@blogger.com